Which leads me to ask the question, is there an area of town that is too far for you to travel for a guy? Or an area of town to which you will not venture at all? Some ladies won't travel out of the Fan. Some ladies see no problem racking up those miles towards their next oil change going back and forth to Charlottesville for a nice conversation over tapas.
| I have to go through how many tolls? |
For me, it all depends on how much I like the guy. For instance, I've had a first date in which I had to go deep into Chesterfield. How far you ask? I don't know because I'm pretty sure I dozed off somewhere on Chippenham. The date was already mediocre. Well until I saw framed pictures of his cat.... all over! ( I'm all for loving thine animals. But taking thine animals to Sears Portrait Studio is a bit much.) So when we get to the "We should hang out again" portion of the evening yours truly started thinking about distance. Is it worth giving it a second date? Maybe he's nervous. Maybe he REALLY likes his cat and there's an abandoned kitten in a drainpipe story in there somewhere. However, what really tipped the scales was when I thought, "Mmm, yeah no, this is too far."
On the other hand, I've willingly headed past Short Pump to hang out (and on a school night). Chilling with a guy that I can connect with means I turn into a U.S. Postal Service mail carrier. Neither rain, nor sleet, nor snow, nor hail will make me miss a chance to hang out. Not really, but I did drive there in the rain once. Wipers were on high speed too. I'm one tough cookie. But location and distance was never an inhibiting factor when it came time for me to decide to meet up for another date on 'his' side of town.
My point is this: restaurants and movies are great date locations. And the Meet in the Middle approach works for the first few dates. But if you are on the fence about a guy, I've found a true test that will knock you on one side of the lawn is finding out how far you are willing to drive to his place to watch a Netflix movie. Ask yourself the following questions:
1. Do I really want to see this movie?
- Yes!
- Not really.
2. Is it worth the drive?
- Yes!
- Not really. Gas isn't cheap. I will rent the movie myself.
Here are your Cosmo Girl quiz answers:
If you answered No to the movie, but Yes to the drive, then congrats, you actually like the guy. So much so that you'll take a nap before the drive to ensure you don't fall asleep on the way to a movie you have no interest in seeing.
If you answered No to both, obviously you don't like the guy and you should gear up to have that conversation.
If you answered Yes to both, you must really have a crush on that movie. (If Ryan Reynolds is in it, save me a seat. Maybe we can carpool.)
Readers: How far is too far for a date? Do you have neighborhood barriers? Mileage barriers? Commute time barriers?
If you answered No to the movie, but Yes to the drive, then congrats, you actually like the guy. So much so that you'll take a nap before the drive to ensure you don't fall asleep on the way to a movie you have no interest in seeing.
If you answered No to both, obviously you don't like the guy and you should gear up to have that conversation.
If you answered Yes to both, you must really have a crush on that movie. (If Ryan Reynolds is in it, save me a seat. Maybe we can carpool.)
Readers: How far is too far for a date? Do you have neighborhood barriers? Mileage barriers? Commute time barriers?
As the judgmental map suggests, the area of town where a guy lives is ultimately a reflection of his lifestyle. Someone who hates walking, local restaurants or older homes is probably not going to voluntarily choose to live in the Fan. As a woman who appreciates all of those things, a guy choosing to live in a neighborhood where they're accessible would get him bonus points in my book.
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